Winter Turns into Spring - The Blog



Happy New year 2020, everyone.
A new year can be exciting for some, very scary for others or, sometimes, a little bit of both. There is so much pressure out there to better ourselves by setting some new goals and intentions. I gave it some thoughts and determined to carry on with what I have started in 2019: giving myself more self-compassion. So, what is Self-Compassion? What is its place in recovery from Child Sexual Abuse?

- Mindfulness: Acknowledging the pain/ discomfort "I am hurting right now." or "I am really having a though time." I found listening to the meditations very helpful as I was a newbie. These mediations helped me to reach a mindful state and by repeating the little "mantras", I felt warmth as I placed my hands on my heart (See 3. Self Kindness)
- Commom Humanity: Recognising pain/ suffering is part of the human experience, We all experience it. "I am not alone." or "Others must feel this way, at some point in their life" Realistically, it is true: every single human being experiences suffering in one form or another.We all experience change, (mental or physical) illnesses, financial difficulties, relationship discordect. the list goes on and on. This step isn't about minimising our own challenges but to reconnect with our fellows human beings. It makes sense to me to pray/ chant for my happiness TOGETHER with others.
- Self Kindness:
self soothing by gently talking to ourselves/ inner self "I am sorry you are sad/ angry/ suffering right now. I am here for you. hold on."
A gentle stroke on the arm, a self hug, or hands on one's chest might also help. This helps me to go back to my body and to show myself (my Inner Girls) how much I care about myself.